Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Four

Let’s do a quick recap for the past three steps of your Self Concept Assessment.

Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Four

Step One – you created a list of words/phrases to describe yourself in eight areas of your life.

Step Two – you took all the word/phrases with a minus sign (weakness), put them on a separate sheet and rewrote them in a positive and accurate way.

Step Three – you took all the word/phrased with a plus sign (strengths) and put them on a separate sheet. You took those strength words and created complete sentences for them. Hopefully you tooted your horn when you did.

Turning Your Self Concept Assessment Into A Magical Essence Declaration

Note: This assessment is a condense excerpt from the book Self Esteem by McKay and Fanning

This is where the magic happens – You will use the revised versions of your strengths and weakness that you completed in steps 2 & 3.

Now take these two revised list and join them together into an accurate, fair and supportive self description. There should be no negative or "false" positive, sarcastic words and/or statements.

Your new description should cover all eight areas from your assessment. Ideally it should be at least one paragraph for each of those areas.

It should acknowledge weakness you may want to change. More importantly, you’ll also include the personal strengths (assets) that are undeniably part of your identity, that Magical Essence that make you… YOU.

Embracing Your New Authentic Self Description

Ready to began the journey to change the warped image you see of yourself?

Embracing and making this new self description is the first steps to changing your inner reflection.

I remember feeling very uncomfortable doing this at first, often my inner critic would challenge my "real" self description. I want to encourage to do these steps regardless. In the final wrap up of this series, I’ll share ways to disarm the negative voice within.

Twice a day for four weeks read your self description statement out loud. This is the minimum requirement to make the changes happen.

It took years of repeated negative and untruths to give you your warp self image. Visualize taking down the old fun house mirror that reflects your warp reflection and put a new mirror reflecting the true you.

The Law of Repetition will help you learn a more forgiving way to accurately think about yourself when you read your new self description every day.

I’ll see you with our final step on stopping you inner critic from beating you up while you start accepting your true, accurate self image.

Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Three

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Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Three

Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Three

How are you coming along with your Self Concept Assessment? It took me awhile to complete mine. Some parts of it made me feel very uncomfortable. Especially doing step three: Acknowledging your strengths.

My self esteem was practically nonexistent. Doing this Self Concept Assessment was no easy task. Especially growing up with critical parents. I felt everything about me was wrong.

Society also hesitates in commending someone who acknowledges their strengths. You can find yourself labeled a braggart, boaster, audacious just to name a few.

The current politically correct attitude that resides in America today doesn’t help. There is a big emphasis on "equality" and "fairness" and nobody should do better than somebody else.

God gave you those strengths and talents to make your dreams happen. (Believe in Your Inner Gifts)

Today you will enthusiastically acknowledge your assets… your talents… your strengths… the very things that make you… YOU!

Step Three – Listing Your Strengths – Assets – Abilities

Note: This assessment is a condense excerpt from the book Self Esteem by McKay and Fanning

I want you to toot your own horn… be audacious… acknowledge the things to appreciate about you.

You’ll need a fresh sheet of paper and your Self Concept Assessment.

Write down all the items with a plus sign from your assessment.

Look over your weakness list and scan for where you wrote corresponding strengths. Are they on your strengths list? if not, put them on your list .

Try to think of other special qualities or abilities you didn’t mention yet.

What compliments did you receive?
What about successes, awards, prizes and good marks you received?
What obstacles and adversities did you overcome?

Keep reviewing your list and continue adding to it.

Now go over your list of strengths, item by item, an rewrite them in complete sentences. Make sure you use synonyms, adjectives and adverbs to elaborate. Replace any negatives with positives.

If you’re like me, you spent years polishing and dwelling on your negative qualities. It’s really important to devote equal time to your strengths.

Be bold and toot your horn loudly… so loud it begins to drown out your inner critic.

A great way to counteract your tendency to downplay your strengths is to pretend you’re writing a recommendation letter for someone you really love and want to see succeed.

Keep reading over your list and embrace your qualities and strengths.

We’ll blend all the work you did on your self concept assessment in Step Four. This will give you a powerful tool to eliminate your warped self image.

Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Two

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Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Two

Self concept exemplifies how you see yourself. It’s an important factor in your level of self esteem and confidence.

Your self concept determines how you will experience life. The closer you are to your ideal self… your true self the happier you will be in life.

Let’s continue working on throwing away those false perceptions about yourself.

Step Two: Listing Weakness

Your Self Concept Assessment must be completed before moving on to step two.

Note: This assessment is a condense excerpt from the book Self Esteem by McKay and Fanning

There is nothing wrong with possessing faults and weaknesses. Everyone comes into the world with them. Let me share a secret about everyone’s self concept: it’s perfectly normal to list ways you want to be different. Everybody has their own different wish list.

That list presents a problem for people with low self esteem and warped self concept issues. They will use the wish list to magnify their weakness for destructive self attacks.

It’s important to rewrite your weakness in a positive and accurate way so your inner critic can’t destructively attack you.

Get a sheet of notebook paper and divide it into two columns. Folding the sheet of paper lengthwise/longwise will suffice.

On the left side write down each item you marked with a minus. Leave about 3-4 lines between each item for your rewrites.

Follow these 4 rules in rewriting your weakness

1. Eliminate all derogatory, uncomplimentary and negative language.
Example: reword screw up paperwork with occasionally forget to fill in items on order forms.

2. Use accurate language
Revise items so they are purely descriptive. Example: fat thighs becomes 23 inch thighs

3. Use language that is specific rather than general
Eliminate words like everything, always, never, completely, etc. Example: lose everything changes to occasionally loses keys or umbrella.

4. Find exceptions or corresponding strengths
Example: Lousy housekeeper – fact: dished sometimes pile up along with messes in other rooms. I do a major clean-up once a week. – corresponding strength: I enjoy using the time to play games or read to my children.

This is an extremely challenging task that will make a major step toward changing your negative self concept.

Self-Esteem: A Proven Program
of Cognitive Techniques
for Assessing, Improving,
and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem

Do it carefully and take as much time as you need to complete it.

Step Three of the Self Concept Assessment: you will acknowledge, accept and embrace your strengths.

Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Part One

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People dealing with a low self esteem don’t view themselves clearly. They see themselves through warped funhouse mirror. The distorted reflection seems to magnify their weakness while diminishing their assets.

My psychologist suggested I do a self concept assessment to raise my self esteem and get rid of the false warped mirror images.

The first step toward doing an accurate self concept assessment begins with writing down detail on how you see yourself right now. The more details the better. This assessment is a condense excerpt from the book Self Esteem by McKay and Fanning

Creating Your Self Concept Assessment

I recommend keeping your assessment in a spiral notebook. Your assessment will consist of eight areas. In each area, write down as many words and/or phrases to describe yourself.

1. Physical appearance.
Include description of your height, weight, hair, skin, eye, style of dress along with descriptions of specific body area.

2. How you relate to others
Include details of your strengths and weakness in all your relationships, with people you interact with regularly. Also include how you relate to strangers in social settings.

3. Personality
Describe your positive and negative traits

4. How other people see you
What strength and weakness do your friends and family see

5. Your performance at school or job
How do you handle major task

6. Your performance of daily life task
Describe how you maintain yourself, home, health and other personal care task include family needs too

7. Mental functioning
This area can include, reasoning, problem solving, learning, creativity, specialized knowledge, insight wisdom and so on

8. Sexuality
How you see and feel about yourself as a sexual person

Self-Esteem: A Proven Program
of Cognitive Techniques
for Assessing, Improving,
and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem

Next Step in finishing your self concept assessment:

go back and put a plus sign by items representing your strengths or things you like about yourself.
Put a minus sign by item you consider negative or would like to change.
Look for a pattern with your plus and minus signs

Do the majority of your negative show up in only a couple of areas?

This generally means your self esteem is in good shape with a few specific weak spots.

If you have more minus signs over positive signs throughout your assessment, it will take more effort for you to achieve a realistic positive self concept.

Part two of this series will go over how to begin revising the weak perceptions on your list.

Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Four

Turning Your Self Concept Assessment Into A Magical Essence Declaration

Embracing Your New Authentic Self Description

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Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Three

Step Three – Listing Your Strengths – Assets – Abilities

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Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Two

Step Two: Listing Weakness

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Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Four

Turning Your Self Concept Assessment Into A Magical Essence Declaration

Embracing Your New Authentic Self Description

Other posts of the series

Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Three

Step Three – Listing Your Strengths – Assets – Abilities

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Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Two

Step Two: Listing Weakness

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Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Part One

Creating Your Self Concept Assessment

Next Step in finishing your self concept assessment:

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