Self Esteem | Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Three
Accurate Self Concept Assessment – Step Three
How are you coming along with your Self Concept Assessment? It took me awhile to complete mine. Some parts of it made me feel very uncomfortable. Especially doing step three: Acknowledging your strengths.
My self esteem was practically nonexistent. Doing this Self Concept Assessment was no easy task. Especially growing up with critical parents. I felt everything about me was wrong.
Society also hesitates in commending someone who acknowledges their strengths. You can find yourself labeled a braggart, boaster, audacious just to name a few.
The current politically correct attitude that resides in America today doesn’t help. There is a big emphasis on "equality" and "fairness" and nobody should do better than somebody else.
God gave you those strengths and talents to make your dreams happen. (Believe in Your Inner Gifts)
Today you will enthusiastically acknowledge your assets… your talents… your strengths… the very things that make you… YOU!
Step Three – Listing Your Strengths – Assets – Abilities
Note: This assessment is a condense excerpt from the book Self Esteem by McKay and Fanning
I want you to toot your own horn… be audacious… acknowledge the things to appreciate about you.
You’ll need a fresh sheet of paper and your Self Concept Assessment.
Write down all the items with a plus sign from your assessment.
Look over your weakness list and scan for where you wrote corresponding strengths. Are they on your strengths list? if not, put them on your list .
Try to think of other special qualities or abilities you didn’t mention yet.
- What compliments did you receive?
- What about successes, awards, prizes and good marks you received?
- What obstacles and adversities did you overcome?
Keep reviewing your list and continue adding to it.
Now go over your list of strengths, item by item, an rewrite them in complete sentences. Make sure you use synonyms, adjectives and adverbs to elaborate. Replace any negatives with positives.
If you’re like me, you spent years polishing and dwelling on your negative qualities. It’s really important to devote equal time to your strengths.
Be bold and toot your horn loudly… so loud it begins to drown out your inner critic.
A great way to counteract your tendency to downplay your strengths is to pretend you’re writing a recommendation letter for someone you really love and want to see succeed.
Keep reading over your list and embrace your qualities and strengths.
We’ll blend all the work you did on your self concept assessment in Step Four. This will give you a powerful tool to eliminate your warped self image.