Authentic Self

Recipe for Self Love

Every day, almost everywhere we look we’re bombarded with someone else’s idea of perfection. We’re told, “You need this,” “You should wear this” and “You need to be this way or that way,” but no one tells us that we’re just fine.

Let go of what society tells you who you “should” be and embrace what makes you different. Your Magical Essence is what makes you special. There’s no one in the world who is exactly like you and that makes you special, unique and amazing.

Follow this recipe below to find a renewed satisfaction in yourself, your loved ones, and your life. You’ll be glad you did!

Your Recipe for Self Love to Use Through Out the Year

Take full responsibility for your life.
Stop blaming others.
See yourself as the cause of what happens to you.
Do things you like to do.
Don’t stay in a job you don’t like.
Participate in life at the highest level you can.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts.
Watch what you say. Avoid self put-downs.
Stop being critical of yourself and others.
Be gentle and kind and patient with yourself.
Give yourself the simple pleasures of life abundantly.
Wear clothes you feel good in, get a massage, etc.
Take care of your body.
Give it exercise and good food.
Be willing to create a lifestyle that generates and nourishes self-esteem.
Associate with others with high esteem.
Acknowledge yourself frequently.
Keep a diary of your successes and accomplishments.
Avoid comparing yourself with others.
Remember that it’s who we are, not what we do, that’s important
Give yourself permission to do nothing periodically.
Schedule time by yourself.
Frequently take deep breaths.
Discover the benefit and pleasure of breathing fully.
Eat first class frequently.
Don’t look at the right side of the menu.
Stop trying to change others.
Focus your attention on being the way you want others to be.
Look into a mirror regularly
and say “I love you, I really love you”.
Stop feeling guilty and saying “I’m sorry”.
See mistakes as valuable lessons and avoid judging yourself.
Consciously generate positive thoughts and feelings of self-love
in place of old thoughts of inadequacy.
Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life.
Stop taking yourself so seriously.
Accept compliments from others without embarrassment.
Don’t invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you.
Be kind to your mind.
Don’t hate yourself for having negative thoughts.
Gently change your thoughts.
Keep your awareness and your thoughts focused in present time
instead of living in the past or future.
Acknowledge others frequently.
Tell them what you like and appreciate in them.
Invest money in yourself.
Go to seminars, workshops and courses that develop your talents.
Make a list of 10 things
you love doing and do them frequently.
Treat yourself as you would treat someone you really loved.
Praise yourself.

The foundation of any healthy relationship including your relationship with money comes from the understanding you can’t love another without first loving yourself.

The foundation of any healthy relationship including your relationship with money comes from the understanding you can’t love another without first loving yourself. A little self-love will enhance every part of your life

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5 Steps to Your Genuine Powerful Identity

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Your self-esteem is the way you view yourself. You might view yourself as a parent, construction worker, friend, blonde, sports fan, intelligent, impatient, and middle-aged. But you’re more than your career, gender, and age. You’re more than your parents’ opinion.

You’re an exceptional person with nuances that are unique to you!

When who you are, aligns with what you do, you’re living authentically from your Magical Essences Zone or ME Zone. But most of us view ourselves as one way and live another. Authentic people act honestly and congruently.

The benefits of this congruency are enormous: success, high self-esteem, respect from others, and inner peace.

Those that live lives misaligned with their values, beliefs, and attitudes suffer from more anxiety, guilt, and shame. It might seem easier to live up to the expectations of others in the short-term, but the long-term costs are significant.

It takes boldness and courage to step into your true ME.

Follow these steps to determine your true self and live life on your terms:

Identify your core values. Your authentic self-image automatically aligns with your values. By knowing your values, you gain an understanding of what is important to you. Once you’re aware of your values, you can build a self-image and life that are more meaningful and enjoyable.

Make a list of your values. Create a long list and include everything that you think applies to you. Then, reduce your list to the ten values most important to you. You might struggle to narrow your list to just ten, but ten values are plenty.

Determine if you have any conflicts. For example, you might say you value adventure and freedom, but what if you also strongly favor responsibility and security? Those values could be in conflict.

When you’re faced with inner conflict, you’re likely to shut down and do nothing. You can experience paralysis of analysis while making a decision. This is a possible sign where your values were in conflict. Think back to when you’ve struggled to make a decision and see if it’s true.
Do you have any values listed that aren’t really priorities for you? We often carry around perspectives instilled by our parents. Here’s a newsflash: they may have been wrong. Take the time to determine your values for yourself. Disregard what society says you should value. Listen to your inner guidance when determining your values

Create an action plan for each value. Imagine one of your values is frugality. You could create a budget and savings plan that incorporates that value. You might plan to start clipping coupons, visit less expensive stores, and search for free entertainment options available on the weekends.
Make a list of activities you enjoy that are in alignment with your values. For example, if generosity is a priority, you could find an enjoyable way to spend your time helping others. If health is a value you cherish, you could join a soccer team or a yoga class. Find your favorite sport and participate.
Evaluate yourself at the end of each day. Think about the instances when you failed to live according to your values. Likewise, contemplate the times you were able to live according to your values and self-image, particularly when doing so was challenging.

Create a self-image aligned with your values. First, it is necessary to identify and choose your values. Next, construct a life that allows you to live those values consistently and to thrive. Authenticity eliminates many of the common emotional ailments in life, but it’s not always the easiest choice.

Be bold enough to choose the person you want to become and live accordingly. The benefits are enormous. What are your values? Comment Below?

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Live the Life You Want by Revealing Your True Self

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Are you living an authentic life? Maybe this is a better question, what does authentic life mean?

It’s one of those buzz words loosely thrown around because marketing gurus suggest using it.

Let’s define what it truly means: Being authentic involves coming from a real place within… your Magical Essence. When you come from your true ME, your actions and words align with your beliefs and values. It is being ourselves, not an imitation of what we think we should be or have been told we should be.

It also stands for continual learning about us, challenging old beliefs, sorting through our baggage. It is about learning to face fears and doubts, to be able to reach deep within ourselves to find out what makes our heart sing, our spirit soar. Living your life from you ME Zone… smoothly sailing along in life.

If you find yourself yearning for things to change, wishing you could be more, or wanting to live a totally different lifestyle, it could be your Magical Essence whispering it’s time you revealed your true self to the world.

If you believe you only get one life and this is it, you likely realize how important it is to live the life you desire. You can best accomplish this by discovering the real “you” inside and catering to what’s most important to you.

You can best accomplish this by discovering the real “you” inside and catering to what’s most important to you.

So how do you start the process of unraveling the persona you’ve become to reveal who you really are?

Your answers to these questions will help you uncover your true self:

Who are you really? Would you love to dive into that intellectual part of you that you’ve ignored over the past years? Maybe you want to write the great American novel or see the world. What do your innermost feelings and thoughts tell you about who you really are?

Think about the times when you’ve been happiest. These are great clues to learning who you really are. What made you so happy? Where were you? Who were you with?

Are you truly happy now? When you look closely, do you feel joy about your life? Or do you feel like all you’re doing is trying to keep up with your neighbors, friends, or family rather than doing what you really want?
What do you want to be remembered for? Cultivate your thoughts about what you want to be doing with your life right now. By fulfilling your hopes and dreams, you’ll be remembered as the person you want to be.
What are your top three dreams? Answer this question quickly, without thinking too hard. The first answers that come to mind are probably correct. Have you achieved these dreams yet? If not, are you working toward them at least a little bit each day?
What do you plan to do with your life? Contemplate this question to help you discover what’s really important to you. Let yourself get excited and develop joyful anticipation about what you’ll be doing next in your life.

You’ve heard the saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” However, the builders of Rome did have to make progress every day. Re-focusing on what you truly want and set up your daily life to stay on task will move you closer to your goals and reveal more about yourself.
Think about what you can do today and tomorrow to move toward fulfilling your hopes and desires. When you really want something, knowing that you’re coming closer to it each day will bring you increased happiness and excitement for your future.

Answering these questions to unearth your true feelings at least once a year is a good idea. Doing so will help you stay on track in terms of having the life that you truly want.

Revealing the real you is an exciting journey… a Journey to ME… filling you with great joy and satisfaction. And who doesn’t want more of that?

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Allowing Your Individuality to Shine Can be Scary

by Ann Rusnak

It should feel natural to stand out and reveal your true self to the world. However, worrying about what others will think and the fear of being judged will keep us playing small. The opinions you formed about yourself early in life can still haunt you into adulthood.

However, the world needs your individuality. Life is never completely satisfying while you’re pretending to be less than who you really are.

Life is never completely satisfying while you’re pretending to be less than who you really are.

Let the world see your Magical Essence Shine:

1. Understand everyone tries to fit in. We all possess an innate desire to fit in with the crowd. You feel uncomfortable standing out, but this is where you’ll find the most success and satisfaction.

Most of the famous people you can name overcame the need to remain anonymous. They were willing to put their best and unique gifts out into the world…

2. Know that people are respected for daring to be unique. Think about the people you know that are willing to be themselves regardless of the circumstances. Their level of comfort is attractive to others. We love people with this ability and want to be more like them.

Understand people will show jealousy when you feel comfortable letting your true self shine. You can gain so much more socially by presenting your authentic self. Give it a try.

3. Identify what’s unique about you. What can you do better than most people? What are your natural gifts and talents? What can you bring to the world that’s in short supply? What is your greatest value to the world? How are you different from others?

4. Small steps can make it more comfortable to show yourself to the world. Suppose you’re good at painting, but you fear showing anyone your work. You might choose to post your artwork anonymously online. Or you might try to sell your art in an out of town gallery.

What can you do to begin expressing yourself to the world slowly and comfortably? Maybe you can start with your friends.
Give your opinions freely. One way to show your individuality is to just share your opinions when appropriate.

5. Focus on the positive. When you receive some results from taking that first step, focus on the positive. Allow yourself to enjoy the compliments. Notice how any criticism doesn’t really mean a thing. The better you can make yourself feel, the more comfortable you’ll be taking a bigger step.

6. Find like-minded people. There are people out there trying to do the same thing you are. Keeping with the artist theme, you could find other artists to spend time with. You can support each other. You can learn from each other. You’ll feel braver if you’re part of a community.

7. Continue to grow. Always be pushing forward. You don’t have to go fast to end up someplace great. You simply need to keep moving.

The key to massive success is to keep yourself just slightly uncomfortable and get used to that feeling.
The world needs your best, so be willing to put it out there in a bigger and better way.

We admire those that are willing to be themselves. In a sea of seemingly average people, those brave enough to present themselves honestly to the world are valued and respected. You can be one of those people. Take a deep breath and reveal your true self. Share your talents and your weirdness. The world needs you.

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Using Positive Energy to Reach Your Destiny

by Ann Rusnak

The type of energy that surrounds you is an important determining factor in how you feel. The energy you have on the inside can also affect your mood in a positive or negative way. You can use positive energy to manifest your ultimate destiny. The power is inside of you, and you can begin to harness this power starting today.

How you think about yourself and your world shapes what you do. The way you see your future often manifests itself in reality. If you see yourself as happy and healthy, you’re more likely to feel that way. If you see yourself reaching your goals, you’re more likely to work for and attain them. Hold on to the dreams you have in your heart.

How you think about yourself and your world shapes what you do.

Even if your dreams have yet to come true, your destiny still awaits you. It’s only a matter of time before you manifest the result of the energy inside of you. Hard work is often required to get to the destiny you know you can realize. Hard work can be made easier by the way you approach it, and that’s where positive energy comes into the picture.

Meeting Your Goals Through Positive Thinking

Many people today have a negative mindset, but you can choose to be different. You can keep your thoughts positive and ensure that you’re working toward the destiny you want to experience. Avoid negative people who tell you what you cannot achieve. You can achieve what you set out to accomplish as long as you remain focused and positive about your experiences.

In order to stay positive about reaching your destiny, try to:

Avoid spending time with or listening to negative people.
Take time each day to meditate on what you really want to see in your life.
Plan your time and energy, so it’s not wasted on less important things.
Focus on reaching your goal and visualize it in your mind.
Spend time with others who share your goals, dreams, and values.

Shaping your destiny using positive energy is easier than most people think. The key is your refusal to give up. It may take some time before you begin to see the positive results you’re after. Your destiny is worth the wait. As long as you have life, you have hope and a future. Internalize and meditate on this truth every day.

The more you hold onto this powerful information, the more likely you’ll be to succeed. This is because you know that you’re strong, brave, and capable. You’re capable of far more than you realize. When you tap into your potential and think positively about that potential, you’ll receive strength that’ll help you grow and develop as a person.

Look at where you are today. Embrace it and tell yourself that you’re ready to move forward. Visualize where you’ll be in a week, a month, a year, and in five years. Take the time to see these pictures in your head, so you have a clear image in your mind of what success looks like.

Set big goals, dream big dreams, and visualize about them coming to pass. When you speak to yourself about these dreams, talk about when you reach your goals and not if. You really can harness positive energy to manifest the destiny of your dreams, starting today!

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How Finding Your Passion Can Improve Your Life

by Ann Rusnak

Everybody feels passionate about something. Sometimes it takes a while to figure out exactly what that is, but you have big dreams inside of you that are driven by your deepest values and convictions. Your dreams are your True ME (Magical Essence) expressing itself.

Discovering your deepest passions will dramatically increase your sense of joy, happiness, and confidence in every area of your life.

Where Do You Find Your Passion?

1. Finding Your Passion in Work

The most popular advice for career success is to find something you love, and then find a way to make money doing it. If you can find a way to support yourself working in a field you enjoy, you’ll get up every morning looking forward to doing something that hardly feels like work.

Sometimes, however, you’re stuck in a position that’s less than ideal. If you explore the values and dreams within yourself and match them to particular aspects of your job, your daily grind can quickly turn into a daily pleasure. By finding deep meaning in what you do, your enthusiasm for work will naturally increase.

2. Finding Your Passion in Your Social Life

When you find your passion, you can seek out others who share that passion and revel in it. You can open yourself up to a whole new circle of people and experiences.

When a group of people who share the same passion get together and talk about it, entertaining dialogue always ensues. Whether it’s a vigorous debate or a lengthy rant, it’s always good fuel for your soul.

Discovering the passion inside of you makes you a more interesting person. Even when you’re spending time with people who have totally different interests, you can exchange ideas on a whole new level and enjoy each other’s company more when you have more to share.

Discovering the passion inside of you makes you a more interesting person.

Your friends, family, and colleagues may feed off your interest and enthusiasm. Your passion may become contagious, and you may win them over to your cause. With more in common, you’ll experience a deeper relationship and more meaningful fellowship when you share your passion with others.

3. Finding Your Passion in Your Recreation

Are you easily bored or anxious? The quickest antidote is to discover what makes you tick.

Your passion is the fuel that ignites the joy you were created to experience. Infusing your passion into your weekly schedule, even in small amounts, can have a dramatic effect on the happiness you feel throughout the rest of the week.

4. Finding Your Passion Through Romance

Knowing what your passion is can give you a barometer for potential romantic partners. If you find someone who shares your passion or is at least supportive of it, you can develop a relationship where you can share your passion with someone who feels passionate about you.

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Experience the power of finding your passion today. All it takes is a few minutes of quiet time alone, an open mind, and a determination to live the life of joy that you were born to live.

Grab a piece of paper and a pen and ask yourself some questions:

What causes stir your emotions?
What do you enjoy spending time doing?
What bothers you about the world around you?
How can you make it better?
What things make you smile?
What recreational activities do you enjoy?

As you explore, you’ll discover the passion that burns deep within your heart. Ask yourself how you can pursue that passion, starting today, even if it’s only on a small scale. Your life will never be the same.

What small thing will you today to ignite your inner passion? I’d love to hear how you will pursue your passion, so leave a comment and let us know!

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Confidently Dare to be Your True Self

by Ann Rusnak

Are you comfortable being yourself in all situations?

If you’re like most people, you’re 90% you when you’re with close friends, 50% yourself with casual acquaintances, and hide yourself from strangers. Being your true self, your true ME in all settings and situations is scary, but ultimately empowering and relaxing. Imagine the relief you’ll experience.

You no longer worry about what others think about you. You can relax and just be yourself and feel satisfied. You know you are good enough!

Be yourself and enjoy the life you’re meant to experience.

Follow These 9 Suggestions to Stay True to You

1. Meditate. Meditation quiets the part of you that judges and labels everything around you. Gain some insight into the real you by meditating regularly.

2. Tell the truth. When you’re truthful, you reveal yourself. Be honest about your mistakes and shortcomings.

3. Be unique. Your true ME is unlike everyone else. What music do you listen to when you’re alone? How do you dress? What are your talents? Do you keep the unique parts to yourself or are you willing to share them with the world?

Being your true self, your true ME in all settings and situations is scary, but ultimately empowering and relaxing.

4. Examine the areas in your life that feel inauthentic. When and where do you feel like you’re lacking authenticity? Often it will be during interactions with strangers, first dates, new social experiences, and more formal occasions.

A lack of authenticity can also occur when you spend time with your parents and siblings or any other person who doesn’t support you. They just need you to be someone you’re not for them to feel okay about themselves. So, it’s easy for you to fall back into your old roles.
Think about the times you’re inauthentic and ask yourself why.

5. Spend your time on things you enjoy. What do you really enjoy? Do you play on the softball league so you’ll fit in? Would you rather be taking rumba lessons? Spend your free time on the things that you’re most passionate about.

6. Do one thing you want to do but are afraid to try. The people at the office might laugh if you take up the cello or take an acting class. However, secretly, they’ll be jealous that you have the nerve to do something unconventional. Everyone you know is stifled and bored. You can rise above all of that.

7. Express your opinion. Not necessarily all of the time, but give your opinion if it won’t hurt anyone. Going to see a movie with some friends? Tell them the movie you’d most like to see. The family wants to go to the public pool or the park? Let your opinion be known.

8. Go outside. An indoor environment is unnatural. The air is heated or cooled. The lighting is artificial. You can’t see the sun, hear the birds, or feel the grass beneath your feet. Get yourself into a more natural environment and you’ll find it easier to connect to the divine side of yourself.p

9. Strengthen your boundaries. Where your boundaries are weak, your true self is being smothered. These are the places we allow others to determine the rules and set the frame. You’ll know these places by the high amounts of energy they drain from you.

Overcome your need to fit in and impress others. No matter what you do, some people will be impressed and others won’t. Why worry about it? Let your Magical Essence shine. You’re an amazing person. Allow yourself to be that person every day.

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