Your self-esteem is the way you view yourself. You might view yourself as a parent, construction worker, friend, blonde, sports fan, intelligent, impatient, and middle-aged. But you’re more than your career, gender, and age. You’re more than your parents’ opinion.

When who you are, aligns with what you do, you’re living authentically from your Magical Essences Zone or ME Zone. But most of us view ourselves as one way and live another. Authentic people act honestly and congruently.

The benefits of this congruency are enormous: success, high self-esteem, respect from others, and inner peace.

Those that live lives misaligned with their values, beliefs, and attitudes suffer from more anxiety, guilt, and shame. It might seem easier to live up to the expectations of others in the short-term, but the long-term costs are significant.

It takes boldness and courage to step into your true ME.

Follow these steps to determine your true self and live life on your terms:

1. Identify your core values. Your authentic self-image automatically aligns with your values. By knowing your values, you gain an understanding of what is important to you. Once you’re aware of your values, you can build a self-image and life that are more meaningful and enjoyable.

• Make a list of your values. Create a long list and include everything that you think applies to you. Then, reduce your list to the ten values most important to you. You might struggle to narrow your list to just ten, but ten values are plenty.

2. Determine if you have any conflicts. For example, you might say you value adventure and freedom, but what if you also strongly favor responsibility and security? Those values could be in conflict.

• When you’re faced with inner conflict, you’re likely to shut down and do nothing. You can experience paralysis of analysis while making a decision. This is a possible sign where your values were in conflict. Think back to when you’ve struggled to make a decision and see if it’s true.
• Do you have any values listed that aren’t really priorities for you? We often carry around perspectives instilled by our parents. Here’s a newsflash: they may have been wrong. Take the time to determine your values for yourself. Disregard what society says you should value. Listen to your inner guidance when determining your values

3. Create an action plan for each value. Imagine one of your values is frugality. You could create a budget and savings plan that incorporates that value. You might plan to start clipping coupons, visit less expensive stores, and search for free entertainment options available on the weekends.
4. Make a list of activities you enjoy that are in alignment with your values. For example, if generosity is a priority, you could find an enjoyable way to spend your time helping others. If health is a value you cherish, you could join a soccer team or a yoga class. Find your favorite sport and participate.
5. Evaluate yourself at the end of each day. Think about the instances when you failed to live according to your values. Likewise, contemplate the times you were able to live according to your values and self-image, particularly when doing so was challenging.

Create a self-image aligned with your values. First, it is necessary to identify and choose your values. Next, construct a life that allows you to live those values consistently and to thrive. Authenticity eliminates many of the common emotional ailments in life, but it’s not always the easiest choice.

Be bold enough to choose the person you want to become and live accordingly. The benefits are enormous. What are your values? Comment Below?

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Are you living an authentic life? Maybe this is a better question, what does authentic life mean?

It’s one of those buzz words loosely thrown around because marketing gurus suggest using it.

Let’s define what it truly means: Being authentic involves coming from a real place within… your Magical Essence. When you come from your true ME, your actions and words align with your beliefs and values. It is being ourselves, not an imitation of what we think we should be or have been told we should be.

It also stands for continual learning about us, challenging old beliefs, sorting through our baggage. It is about learning to face fears and doubts, to be able to reach deep within ourselves to find out what makes our heart sing, our spirit soar. Living your life from you ME Zone… smoothly sailing along in life.

If you find yourself yearning for things to change, wishing you could be more, or wanting to live a totally different lifestyle, it could be your Magical Essence whispering it’s time you revealed your true self to the world.

If you believe you only get one life and this is it, you likely realize how important it is to live the life you desire. You can best accomplish this by discovering the real “you” inside and catering to what’s most important to you.

So how do you start the process of unraveling the persona you’ve become to reveal who you really are?

Your answers to these questions will help you uncover your true self:

1. Who are you really? Would you love to dive into that intellectual part of you that you’ve ignored over the past years? Maybe you want to write the great American novel or see the world. What do your innermost feelings and thoughts tell you about who you really are?

• Think about the times when you’ve been happiest. These are great clues to learning who you really are. What made you so happy? Where were you? Who were you with?

2. Are you truly happy now? When you look closely, do you feel joy about your life? Or do you feel like all you’re doing is trying to keep up with your neighbors, friends, or family rather than doing what you really want?
3. What do you want to be remembered for? Cultivate your thoughts about what you want to be doing with your life right now. By fulfilling your hopes and dreams, you’ll be remembered as the person you want to be.
4. What are your top three dreams? Answer this question quickly, without thinking too hard. The first answers that come to mind are probably correct. Have you achieved these dreams yet? If not, are you working toward them at least a little bit each day?
5. What do you plan to do with your life? Contemplate this question to help you discover what’s really important to you. Let yourself get excited and develop joyful anticipation about what you’ll be doing next in your life.

• You’ve heard the saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” However, the builders of Rome did have to make progress every day. Re-focusing on what you truly want and set up your daily life to stay on task will move you closer to your goals and reveal more about yourself.
• Think about what you can do today and tomorrow to move toward fulfilling your hopes and desires. When you really want something, knowing that you’re coming closer to it each day will bring you increased happiness and excitement for your future.

Answering these questions to unearth your true feelings at least once a year is a good idea. Doing so will help you stay on track in terms of having the life that you truly want.

Revealing the real you is an exciting journey… a Journey to ME… filling you with great joy and satisfaction. And who doesn’t want more of that?

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Are you comfortable being yourself in all situations?

If you’re like most people, you’re 90% you when you’re with close friends, 50% yourself with casual acquaintances, and hide yourself from strangers. Being your true self, your true ME in all settings and situations is scary, but ultimately empowering and relaxing. Imagine the relief you’ll experience.

You no longer worry about what others think about you. You can relax and just be yourself and feel satisfied. You know you are good enough!

Be yourself and enjoy the life you’re meant to experience.

 Follow These 9 Suggestions to Stay True to You

1. Meditate. Meditation quiets the part of you that judges and labels everything around you. Gain some insight into the real you by meditating regularly.

2. Tell the truth. When you’re truthful, you reveal yourself. Be honest about your mistakes and shortcomings.

3. Be unique. Your true ME is unlike everyone else. What music do you listen to when you’re alone? How do you dress? What are your talents? Do you keep the unique parts to yourself or are you willing to share them with the world?

4. Examine the areas in your life that feel inauthentic. When and where do you feel like you’re lacking authenticity? Often it will be during interactions with strangers, first dates, new social experiences, and more formal occasions.

• A lack of authenticity can also occur when you spend time with your parents and siblings or any other person who doesn’t support you. They just need you to be someone you’re not for them to feel okay about themselves. So, it’s easy for you to fall back into your old roles.
• Think about the times you’re inauthentic and ask yourself why.

5. Spend your time on things you enjoy. What do you really enjoy? Do you play on the softball league so you’ll fit in? Would you rather be taking rumba lessons? Spend your free time on the things that you’re most passionate about.

6. Do one thing you want to do but are afraid to try. The people at the office might laugh if you take up the cello or take an acting class. However, secretly, they’ll be jealous that you have the nerve to do something unconventional. Everyone you know is stifled and bored. You can rise above all of that.

7. Express your opinion. Not necessarily all of the time, but give your opinion if it won’t hurt anyone. Going to see a movie with some friends? Tell them the movie you’d most like to see. The family wants to go to the public pool or the park? Let your opinion be known.

8. Go outside. An indoor environment is unnatural. The air is heated or cooled. The lighting is artificial. You can’t see the sun, hear the birds, or feel the grass beneath your feet. Get yourself into a more natural environment and you’ll find it easier to connect to the divine side of yourself.p

9. Strengthen your boundaries. Where your boundaries are weak, your true self is being smothered. These are the places we allow others to determine the rules and set the frame. You’ll know these places by the high amounts of energy they drain from you.

Overcome your need to fit in and impress others. No matter what you do, some people will be impressed and others won’t. Why worry about it? Let your Magical Essence shine. You’re an amazing person. Allow yourself to be that person every day.

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You’re probably too hard on yourself. It’s much easier to make your way through the world if you love yourself. Perhaps the greatest struggle we all face is the effort to accept and love ourselves despite our many flaws. This may take a little work, especially, if you consistently criticize and put yourself down.

To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance

~Oscar Wilde

Love yourself more each day with these strategies:

1. Give yourself an earnest compliment each day. Have you ever felt like you needed a compliment? Go ahead and give yourself one! Think about all your great qualities and congratulate yourself on one of them. There’s no reason to wait for someone else to get around to saying something nice. Give yourself a nice compliment right now.

• Look in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome you are… because you are!

2. Make a list of your accomplishments. You’ve accomplished plenty of great things. Make a list of all of them. Be creative and give this exercise some thought. You’ll find that your life has been more impressive than you realized.

• This exercise is very powerful and scary to do. While evicting impostor syndrome out of my life last year, I put together a values book that included listing my skills and accomplishes. What a shift in how I felt about myself and I continue to add it regularly.
• Did you make the list?

3. Eat in a healthier manner. Take better care of yourself by making some changes to your diet. We could all use a little improvement in this department. You know which foods are healthy. Add a few of them to your diet and drop a few of the less healthy foods.

• Show yourself that you’re important. You wouldn’t feed junk food to your child or beloved pet. Give yourself the same level of importance.

4. Support a cause you believe in. Spending time on something you think is important is a great way to show yourself that you’re a good person. You’ll feel better about yourself and put a smile on your face.
5. Be grateful. Appreciating what you have makes it easier to love yourself. No one enjoys being around a complainer. Think about your life and make a list of the things and people that fill you with gratitude. It’s surprising how much of a great life you already have.

• Before you get out of bed in the morning, start appreciating everything around you.
• Give thanks for the talents and gifts that make you a marvelous person.

6. Forgive your past self. Sure, you’ve made some mistakes and probably done and said a few awful things along the way. But that period of your life is over now. Why drag the past into the present? You can make a fresh start each day. Let it go.
7. Make one small improvement. As great as you are, you can be even better. Make one small change that will enhance your life in some way. Maybe it’s exercising for a few minutes each week or calling your mom once a week. Show yourself that you can grow and become a better version of yourself. Try these easy ideas:

• Pay all of your bills on time.
• Be more patient with your family.
• Be on time for work each day.
• Do five pushups each morning.
  

8. Do one thing each day makes you happy. If not today, when? There’s no time like the present to begin enjoying your life. Start taking those guitar lessons, finally get a pet, or volunteer at the local food bank. Start loving your life and yourself.

9. Avoid people that drag you down. Odds are that at least one of your relationships is poisoning your life. It might be a friendship, a romantic relationship, or a relationship with a family member. Value yourself enough to avoid negative people and relationships.

You have many wonderful qualities that you’ve been overlooking. Believe that you deserve love from yourself and those in your life. A little self-love will enhance every part of your life.

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