Every successful person living their dream, deals with fear. The road to hell might be paved with good intentions, but the road to success is littered with fear and uncertainty.

The biggest difference between someone with a wildly successful life and someone not living their dreams comes down to one thing:

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Follow these significant action steps… repeatedly:

1. Simply decide to succeed. The majority of people never really decide to do or accomplish anything significant; at best they ‘kinda sorta try it out.’ However, once you truly decided to go for your dreams, there leaves little room for fear or doubt to reside in your mind. In fact, the word ‘decide’ means to cut yourself off from any other possibility.
2. Make friends with risk. Chase after your fears and show them who is boss. Make the tough presentation or phone call. Ask for whatever it is that you want. A big part of unleashing your inner success comes from doing things that other people are too afraid to do.
3. Prepare for Challenges. Many of your stresses, challenges, and concerns come from things that you feel might happen. Take the time to find solutions and put them into place before you need them. When you can see a challenge that is likely to come up, simply prepare for it instead of worrying about it.
4. Go with the flow. If you don’t live in the past or future, life is much less stressful. Let go of your resistance to the present moment and see what happens. This was a tough one for me. I’m amazed at how things "just work out" when I let go and trust.
5. Focus on the good outcomes. Most people look for the worst and expect it to happen. Law of attraction works for both good and bad stuff. Expect the best and it’s much easier to take action. Sure, some undesirable things will likely happen along the way, but they’ll be like mosquitoes that need to be shooed away. That’s much better than the brick wall that you might otherwise perceive.
6. Learn to relax. When you feel stress and anxiety coming on, a few slow, deep breaths can make a huge difference. To a large extent, our psychology follows our physiology; breathing is the only part of our physiology that we can really control. Use that control to your advantage.
7. Fully engage in your life and get away from the news. The news is so negative. Instead, find something interesting to do with your time. If you’re conquering less stressful things all day long, the more stressful things don’t seem so bad anymore. Take a piano lesson, go hiking, or go skydiving. It will make your life more interesting, too.
8. Realize that you are enough. You come into this world with everything you need to make your dreams and ideas a reality. You will learn and polish your skills along the way. Go ahead and plan to acquire the resources you need, but do everything you can with the resources you have now.
9. Start with small steps and wins. Make a list of everything that you need to do but can’t seem to follow through on. Put them in order from least scary to most. Now decide to do the item at the top of the list. When that’s done, do the next. Only focus on the current item at the top of the list.

The only way to truly be free is to conquer your fears. The only way to conquer your fears is to do the things that frighten you. Show yourself that you can do those things successfully. Follow the suggestions above and start your journey from fear to freedom today! Use the comments below and please tell me which suggestions you will do.

Stay Unstoppable,

P.S.
You too can realize your dreams. All you need to do is discover your true inner ME… Your Magical Essence that makes you unique. Your innerME is meant to shine, meant to sparkle and achieve great things. Begin your journey of discovering how to unlock your dreams with the book The Journey to ME: Empowering You to Live a Life of Unstoppable Success.

People who struggle on their quest for success, frequently repeat the same mistakes over and over. How many times do you keep repeating the same "oops"?

You can easily correct the habit of repeating mistakes by forming a new habit. Develop a weekly habit of reflecting on your mistakes. You can devise better alternatives for the next time it happens.

Just as a chain is limited by the strength of its weakest link, your success is limited by the quality of your worst decisions. The power oflearning from your mistakes will to experiencing a more successful life.

Use this acronym, from my book The Journey to ME, to embrace your mistakes and turn them into a great learning tool.

Many Important Steps Taken Acquiring Knowledge, Experience and Solutions™

Try these 6 steps to benefit from your mistakes:

1. Set aside some time once a week.Have a specific time each week that you use to look back and examine your week. Schedule it into your week just like anything else of high importance.

• I like to use spiral notebook or composition books to journal my weekly reflections. (You can stock up on these during Back to School sales)

2. Look back at all the important events from your week. Consider every important interaction and decision you made during the week.

• Reflect on your interactions with your family and the decisions you made related to them. How did you handle your kids? Did you have positive interactions with your partner?
• Think about your financial decisions. Include your spending and how you managed with paying your bills. Investing decisions can be included, too.
• What happened at work? How was your presentation? Did you hire or fire someone? Are you feuding with someone? Were you ever late for work? Did your boss yell at you?
• Examine your health. Did you eat nutritiously this week? Did you sleep well? Did you get enough exercise?
• Include anything else that seems important. Contemplate everything that’s important to you, including anything that involves your friends and neighbors.

3. Ask yourself where could I improve and do better. Where did you make mistakes? Go back over your entire week and consider how each situation could have been managed more effectively.

• It’s similar to asking yourself what you would do if you could go back in time and live that experience all over again.

• Odds are that you’ll have the opportunity to experience a similar situation in the future. Most of our lives are filled with routines and habits. There’s not a lot of novelty from week to week.

4. Where do you see trends in your behavior? We’re all prone to making similar mistakes again and again. Even in completely different situations, we tend to make the same sorts of mistakes.

• Are you assuming too much? Are you too impatient? Are you inconsiderate? Are you acting without getting enough information? Are you ignoring your family?

• If you can correct a trend in your decision-making, you can eliminate a lot of future errors.

5. Visualize yourself handling the situation in a more effective manner. Try to find solutions to challenging situations. Then, see yourself in the same situation, only this time you’ll take a new approach. Visualize things working out well.

• This step is super powerful, so make a point to do it. A few minutes can really make a huge difference.

6. Think about what you did well, too! Recognize those things and resolve to continue responding in the same way to those situations. Keep the good stuff and change the bad.

The habit of weekly reflection helps me so much to stay on track and make course correction and recognize when things aren’t working.

Your success in life will be enhanced by leaps and bounds if you simply take the time to eliminate repeating your mistakes. Each week, you’ll become more and more effective as you make fewer and fewer mistakes. Success isn’t all about doing spectacular things. It also includes learning from spectacular blunders and not repeat them.

Avoid making the same mistake twice. Recognize your shortcomings each week and remove them from your life.

Stay Unstoppable,

P.S.
You too can realize your dreams. All you need to do is discover your true inner ME… Your Magical Essence that makes you unique. Your innerME is meant to shine, meant to sparkle and achieve great things. Begin your journey of discovering how to unlock your dreams with the book The Journey to ME: Empowering You to Live a Life of Unstoppable Success.

Ready to Get Rid of Your Fear of Failure?

Fear of failure can make you feel like you’re stuck in quicksand… Slowly dragging you and your dreams down.

You probably heard the saying: "if you don’t like your current situation, change it." Want some honesty? This kind of rhetoric leaves you feeling more frustrated. First it doesn’t deal with the reason why change itself often fails… it puts you in an uncomfortable place. Second when you feel uncomfortable, you resist making meaningful changes to your life.

The end result… You procrastinate and come up with 100 reasons why you can’t move forward, thus letting fear of failure control your life… keeping you stuck.

Several different things can cause you to fear failure could actually be a fear… it all starts with your belief system

It might be:

• the fear of being judged
• Fear of being criticized.
• Fear of being rejected
• Or fear of wasting time on something you don’t think will work out in the end. (self doubt)

6 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Failure to Unleash Your Potential

Unfortunately, fear can prevent you from every really knowing your true capabilities… your potential.

If your feel of failure has you in its grip, understanding these concepts can set you free:

1. Failure isn’t always about you. A great way to make yourself feel depressed is to internalize negative experiences. Try considering your contribution to the situation. Many factors are outside of your control and it’s foolish and counterproductive to take all the blame.

• For example, not acknowledging the effect of the economy on your new business venture, or the effect that distance has on an intimate relationship, isn’t reasonable. Any failure has contributors that aren’t under your immediate control.

2. It’s just a mental construct. Is a very young child afraid of failure? Of course not. The concept is entirely foreign to them. This is good, since none of us would have learned to walk!

• Learn to enjoy the process of seeing just how far you can take something. Make your goal more about discovery than about accomplishing something specific.

3. There are only results. One of the best ways to figure out what works is to figure out what doesn’t work. We learn by trying ideas. Regardless of whether or not an attempt is successful, you learn something every time you try. Then it’s just a matter of applying what you’ve learned to develop a better solution for the next attempt.

"I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work"
~Thomas Edison

4. Have a clear vision of your desired results. What does success really mean to you? Sometimes fear of failure is actually a fear of failing other people’s expectations. But their definition of success might not match your own.

• It’s your life. Choose your own vision of success.

5. Think about how you’ll feel if you never try. Sometimes the pain of sitting on the sidelines is stronger than the fear of failing. How will you feel in your later years if you don’t put forth your best effort now? Most seniors regret the things they never tried, not the things at which they failed.
6. Consider the worst likely outcome. What’s the worst that could happen? Could you handle it? What contingency plans could you put into place?

• If you’re prepared for the worst, there’s no reason to fear failing.

Minimizing your fear of failure is critical to maximizing your success. At some point, it’s important to forge ahead in spite of fear. There’s nothing wrong with taking action, even if you’re a little uncomfortable. Dealing with discomfort is a part of success. It’s how you expand your comfort zone to accommodate greater things.

Use these tips to help you conquer your fear of failure. Your life will be enriched in many positive ways.

Let me know how you use this suggestions to overcome the fear of failure and/or share some tips that worked for you.

Stay Unstoppable,

8 Ways to Accept Your Past and Move Forward.

Each one of us experiences upsetting situations at one time or another. For a while, you can cope with the negative experience by pushing it from your mind. Eventually, something triggers the negative occurrence back into your thoughts and feelings.

How can you deal with past negative events so you can move forward?

Consider these tips to make peace with your past:

1. Tell yourself, "It is what it is." Whatever the disturbing experience, it happened to you. Acknowledge it. At least, accept the fact that it happened.
2. Identify your own emotions regarding the situation. Ponder the variety of feeling "labels." Disappointment, anger, fear, and resentment are some examples. How did it make you feel then? What goes on with you emotionally when you think about the event now?
3. Embrace all of your feelings. It’s okay to feel whatever it is you feel. You’re human. You have the right to be scared, angry, frustrated, or any other feelings you have. Give yourself permission to embrace the emotions you experience related to your past.

• Awareness into your emotions allows you to understand how something from the past can impact you now.

4. Recognize you can protect yourself now. You can ensure that event won’t happen to you again. Seek and find the comfort and grace in your current position.
5. Determine if you’re truly ready to let go of this part of your past. Can you release it into the wind and say, "It happened but it no longer defines me"? Only you can make the decision to release this negativity from your life for good.

• Of course, the memory will remain, but all the negativity will dissipate when you recognize and understand what happened.
• Think of a symbolic way to release your personal distress so you can start fresh from this day forward. Write down your trauma. Tear it up in tiny pieces and throw them away.

6. Live your life consciously in the present. Staying in the now and vowing to live your best life each day is a powerful antidote to a painful past. Say "good-bye" to the negativity as you let it go. Replace it with a positive thought or experience. Vow to stay in each moment to relish the beauty of everything you have that’s wholesome and special to you.
7. Go after your bliss. Your bliss is something that brings you interest, joy, pleasure, and even excitement. Seek out the things you love to do, places you love to go, and people you love to be with. Use your time on this earth to fulfill your greatest passions. Place reminders of your bliss everywhere to be pleasantly reminded of everything you love.
8. Avoid letting anything stop you. Even though you may still have contact with someone who has hurt you in the past, recognize that you hold all the keys to how your life journey continues from this point forward.

Making peace with your history is a highly rewarding experience. Learning to recognize and let go the emotions connected with your trauma will lead to a more enriched life.

Live in the present, go after your bliss, and pursue your life with a renewed sense of responsibility. Make peace with your past now so you can embrace a beautiful, fulfilling life!

Stay Unstoppable,

The Hardest Step to Making Life Changing Habits

The most difficult part of developing a new habit, like exercising, playing the guitar, or writing each day is getting started. Playing the guitar for 30 minutes each day isn’t difficult, once you actually sit down on the piano bench. Getting started is the tough part.

The habit to focus on first is the habit of getting started!

Maybe this is the year you’re determined to get that beach body, yet you’re struggling to get yourself to the gym on a regular basis. Why don’t you feel like going for a jog or picking up your guitar every day?

Why is it challenging to get started?

Isaac Newton solved the problem with his laws of motion. An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion.An object at rest will stay at rest unless an external force acts upon it. It takes a lot more energy to get something moving…

You might already feel very comfortable sitting on the couch. It will take much effort to get off your butt and go for a run, especially if it’s raining. Maybe you have to take your guitar out of the case, tune it, and then clear off a place to sit down and play.

If you think about it, both of those reasons are actually different viewpoints of the same issue.

The solution to make getting started easier:

1. Choose an activity that you enjoy. Try to find an activity that will fit your requirements that you also enjoy. If you love basketball, but dislike running, choose basketball for getting into better shape.

• If you love it, you’ll be more likely to get started.

2. Attempt to come up with an activity you can do at home. If you have to get in the car before you actually start the activity, it’s going to be more challenging to start. This is one of the biggest barriers to doing anything.
3. Start easy. If you want to start yoga, begin with a class for beginners. The advanced class is probably a mistake. Another idea is to limit the amount of time you spend. Practice the guitar for 10 minutes each day this week. You can add time slowly.

• It’s easier to get started if you know it’s only going to take a few minutes.
  

4. Focus on just the first step. Whether it’s putting on your running shoes or writing one sentence in your word processor. Do the first step before you can talk yourself out of it.

• Once you’ve tackled that first step, momentum can get you through.

5. Plan ahead and so no preparation is needed. If your plan is to go running after dinner, have all your running clothes laid out in the morning. Have your guitar tuned, in its stand, and ready to go. The lower the barrier to getting started when the time comes, the easier it will be to get started.

• What can you do to make getting started as easy as possible?

6. Get an Accountability Buddy. If you make plans with another person, you will unlikely back out. Most of us find it painful to let someone else down. This is especially helpful if you have to do the activity at another location. It can really help you to get out the door.

So, the trick is to making starting as easy as possible. Tell yourself that getting started is all that matters. You’ll frequently find that it’s easy to continue, if you can simply get started. Try the above tips and see if you can get 30 days under your belt and develop that new habit.

Start small, but get started!

Stay Unstoppable,

Do you feel like success is hiding from you?

Let me guess…

You work hard… you devote time to personal growth… you set goals…

In spite of everything you do, it still seems like success is out of your reach. Even when you touched success and got a glimmer of hope, success quickly dashes away out of your reach again.

You keep searching…You continue to keep looking for answers on how to achieve the success you so deeply desire

Well… your answer just arrived

You’re looking for success in the wrong places!

I’m going tell you where success is hiding, in my new free webinar called "Searching for Success in All The Wrong Places: Discover 3 Reasons Success Keeps Escaping You"… happening on Tuesday April 29th at 8pm ET

You can register now

I totally relate and felt like I was never going to experience the success I desired… no matter what I did. I felt like I was one of those people destined to never experience the success, the happiness I craved.

One day I came across an ancient legend on finding success… BAM!!!

My life took a dramatic turn and became totally awesome… totally rocks… feeling happier, at peace and more fulfilled.

Join me on Tuesday April 29th at 8:00pm Eastern time where I’ll share that ancient legend with you in my free webinar:

"Searching for Success in All the Wrong Places"
Discover 3 Reasons Success Keeps Escaping You

Register to save your spot now

In addition to the ancient legend, I’m also sharing

• Why some people sail through life while others continue to struggle.

• Why working harder is NOT the solution to achieve the success you desire.

• Where to easily find the success you seek and how to make it stay.

• Why changing yourself rarely results in lasting changes.

• The one critical element that most personal development programs fail to address. (it’s one of the main reasons success escapes you)

You’ll leave the webinar with 5 strategies on how to finally experience the success you deserve.

Have your paper and pen ready, because I’ll be covering a lot of information.

Claim your spot now… I hope you can join me

See you there! 🙂

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