Forgiveness can be a tricky subject. You may ask yourself how can I forgive the wrong, the hurt somebody caused me? You may say to yourself, look at what their actions have caused in my life. You may be thinking, it’s not fair, if I forgive them, they got away with it, what about the responsibility they need to take for their actions?
All those feelings are legitimate. I felt the same way too. No way I’m forgiving. They messed my life up. I wouldn’t be in the situation if it wasn’t for them. They aren’t taking any responsibility for the abuse that occurred during my childhood.
First things I heard during recovery was, I need to forgive. What???? You got to be kidding me. But they were right.
Over the years, here is what I discovered. Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person. Forgiveness is for you, for your peace of mind so you can move forward in your life.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrongdoing. It allows you to let go of the hurt and pain, so their actions no longer control you. You take back your power.
When you don’t forgive, you stay in resentment, living the event repeatedly in your mind. Expending lots of time and energy to keep the hurt alive.
You only need to forgive one time. That’s it. Life is too short. You gain more time and energy back from no longer dwelling on the experience and desiring some sort of justice or revenge.Forgiveness allows you to move forward, leaving the energy draining negativity behind.
Forgiveness allows you to move forward, leaving the energy draining negativity behind. You can enjoy a life of inner peace and joy. Which is probably the best revenge anyway. At this point, you won’t even care anymore about seeking some form of retaliation because you’re aligned with the Universe.
Everyone makes mistakes in life. Nobody is perfect. Sometimes people hurt or do something unintentionally. Not aware of how it affected you. You’ve probably done the same thing too.
Forgiving yourself is the ultimate act of self-love. It will bring a sense of inner peace to help you let go of the past and open you to receiving abundance from the Universe.